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May 22nd, 2008

love & affection

[info]oranjecat posting in [info]suckitupdyke
5/22/08 05:56 pm
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Do any of you have problems with being affectionate? I certainly do, and it's really bothering me. I'm pretty sure it has a lot to do with growing up as an only child with a physically and emotionally absent parent and only a slightly affectionate other parent (mainly verbal affection), so I never really "learned" that as a regular, daily behavior.

So what's the deal? I want to fix this. I've been with my girlfriend for two years and I love her so and everytime I see my dyke couple friends being affectionate or a queer movie with ladies loving each other, it makes me feel all warm and fuzzy. But I don't have that level of affection in my life. We're not totally dead with each other, but it's hard for me to think to give affection. On good days, I can remember and go a day doing really well, and we'll both be really happy, but then the next day I'll have forgotten. I know some people are more touchy feely than others, but seriously.

Frustrating, to say the least. On top of that, I'm a physical love kind of person - no matter how many times you say it, it doesn't mean anything to me compared to showing it. And the less I'm affectionate with my lady, the less she is with me, 'cause it's a terrible, awful, vicious cycle. Akjhodisfhgoweg!! Help?
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[info]cacahuate
5/22/08 03:00 pm
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Trumbo (Theatrical Trailer)
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15 questions with Bill Clinton (People Magazine)

[info]mizcrank posting in [info]blackfolk
5/22/08 02:52 pm
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http://www.people.com/people/article/0,,20201886,00.html


Some choice Q&A:

Were you surprised when Oprah Winfrey, one of your past supporters, backed Obama?
No. Oprah is from Chicago. She was never going to be for anybody but Obama.

ETA: I'm fed up with the dismissive tone of Barack's endorsements. I hate that he's implying that the only reason "O" endorsed him was for geographical reasons...not because he's the better candidate. Ugh!

What do you think of Obama personally? Do you like him?
I don't know him very well. I did one event for him when he ran for the Senate. He's an immensely talented man. I think I understand him. There are enough similarities in our childhoods and things that I think I get what he is doing. But I do think it's better to have made a lot of decisions before you get to be President.
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the weirdest motel on the coast ever

[info]like_honey posting in [info]damnportlanders
5/22/08 02:11 pm
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we booked the whistling winds motel for our upcoming lincoln city coast stay. i find the half-coherent history of the place (and the details of its purchase and remodel) on the front-page an endearingly horrible marketing decision. snippet:
“The place fell into serious disrepair eventually, especially in the early 90’s,” Scrutton said. “It was full of a lot of criminals, druggies and even pedophiles. Police were there all the time.”

Scrutton said his family found numerous documents in the motel with information on this “underbelly” class of people that stayed or lived here.

He started looking into buying the building around 2001. Then 9/11 happened, and the travel industry took a nosedive. In the meantime, the old lady [the then-owner, "...a lady of legendary cantankerous disposition, whose hardened attitude made her disliked by many, although she had a fiercely loyal and generous side to those who treated her well"] mocked Scrutton’s desire to buy it. He described her as an angry, unhappy person who often just sat on her porch with her dog, scowling at her surroundings and hating her life.
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Thankful Thursdays, Portland-Style!

[info]synthcat posting in [info]damnportlanders
5/22/08 01:57 pm
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1. Turning a negative into a positive, part 1: A delayed commute, due to the raised Hawthorne Bridge, is an opportunity to check out contemporary fashion of other bike commuters. This was lot more productive about getting pissed off about the unexpected inconvenience.

2. Potluck day at work means yummy leftovers for the following day.

3. Reading about other DP friends' awesome hot-weather weekend adventures. It's so nice to be able to vicariously live adventurously, and to be inspired for planning future adventures of my own.

4. Turning a negative into a positive, part 2: A 20-minute delay in the waiting room of the dentist's office is an opportunity to peruse the magazine selections in the waiting area. Reading a quick review of local restaurants section in Portland Monthly magazine inspired me to set up a dinner night with awesome fine dining companions next week. This was lot more productive about getting pissed off about the unexpected inconvenience.

5. Local Internet Service Providers who are kind enough to send out planned outage notices to end-users. I wish more companies would be proactive about planned downimes.
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McCain on Gay Marriage

[info]degreesofevil posting in [info]gsa_lj
5/22/08 04:17 pm
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Republican John McCain addressed the issue of gay marriage on an upcoming espisode of The Ellen DeGeneres Show.

The presdential wannabe says same-sex couples should only be allowed to enter into legal agreements for insurance and other purposes. But that’s where he draws the line. Allowing gays and lesbians to marry is just simply out of the question.

Here’s what went down.


McCain: “I just believe the unique status of marriage between and man and a woman. And I know that we have a respectful disagreement on that issue.”

Ellen: Mmm-hmm…yeah, I mean, I that it is looked at — and some people are saying the same — that blacks and women did not have the right to vote. I mean, women just got the right to vote in 1920. Blacks didn’t have the right to vote until 1870 and it just feels like there’s this old way of thinking that we are not all the same. We are all the same people, all of us. You’re no different than I am. Our love is the same…When someone says, ‘You can have a contract, and you’ll still have insurance, and you’ll get all that,’ it sounds to me like saying, ‘Well, you can sit there, you just can’t sit there.’…It feels like we are not, you know, we aren’t owed the same things and the same wording.”

McCain: “Well, I’ve heard you articulate that position in a very eloquent fashion. We just have a disagreement. And I, along with many, many others, wish you every happiness.”

Ellen: “So, you’ll walk me down the aisle? Is that what you’re saying?”

McCain: “Touche.”

The episode airs Today.

Source: http://www.fadedyouthblog.com/


Uh, I PRAY that Kucinich runs in 2012.
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Work Out

[info]echoeslocation posting in [info]damnportlanders
5/22/08 12:45 pm
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I need to find a place to work out on the cheap...like cheap sign up fees and 20-30 a month. I don't need any awesome yoga or dance or anything. just bikes, weight machines etc...

help. I live in Southeast but I could drive I suppose.

jeremy
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Larry Elder: Still striving for relevancy.

[info]thewayoftheid posting in [info]blackfolk
5/22/08 02:49 pm
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'Stupid Black Men: How to Play The Race Card and Lose'
By Julie Austin, 5/22/2008 7:30:28 AM

When Michael Moore published Stupid White Men, the literary world winced at the thought of the cultural and racial contentions had someone published a book called Stupid Black Men.

Now, in what is destined to become one of the most controversial books of 2008, top-rated radio host Larry Elder has done just that. In STUPID BLACK MEN: How to Play the Race Card-and Lose, Elder rips the cover off of political correctness, holds blacks to higher standards, and obliterates the race card once and for all.

With this groundbreaking publication, Larry Elder calls for an end to "BMW" - Bitching, Moaning, and Whining. He confronts the long-standing cultural excuse of "racism done me wrong", by calling the bluff on all African Americans and other minorities.

( it only gets worse after the cut. )


Gotta love the timeliness of this release, because you know that when he makes the rounds on Fox, CNN, etc. to plug this bullshit he'll be invoking Obama's name.
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4 Witnesses I.D. Alleged Victim In R. Kelly Trial

[info]pariahcub posting in [info]blackfolk
5/22/08 03:22 pm
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  • Current Mood: cranky
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Principal resigns over GSA

[info]halogencycle posting in [info]gsa_lj
5/22/08 11:25 am
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Eddie Walker, the principal of Irmo High School in Irmo, South Carolina, is resigning because he's been ordered by his superiors to allow the formation of a Gay-Straight Alliance club at the school. You can read his letter to the school. And if you haven't had your daily dose of stupidity, you can see some of the comments left on this version of the story on the website of a local TV station.
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Morehouse College faces its own bias -- against gays

[info]mulder200 posting in [info]blackfolk
5/22/08 02:11 pm
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title or description

The 'Morehouse man' is a paragon of virtue and strength, a leader destined for great things. But can he also be gay?
By Richard Fausset, Los Angeles Times Staff Writer
May 22, 2008
ATLANTA -- Michael Brewer, a senior at Morehouse College, was strolling purposefully around this storied campus on a hot spring day, his heavy frame dripping sweat, his hands clutching a small stack of fliers.

"No more hate," the fliers read, in a stylish typeface. "No more discrimination. No more."

"What's up, brother?" Brewer said in a lilting, cheerful voice as he approached a fellow student in a dark business suit. "Take one of these, if you will."

The young man gave the flier a glance. It was promoting what was perhaps the most ambitious week of gay rights events in the history of Morehouse, the only historically black all-male school in America.

"What the hell is this?" he said under his breath. He laughed and threw it in the trash.

But Brewer had already moved, unfazed, into the lobby of WheelerHall, where he was taping up posters. The events had been his idea, and he knew they wouldn't go over well with everyone.

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"I decided early to give my life to something eternal and absolute. Not to these little gods that are here today and gone tomorrow, but to God who is the same yesterday, today, and forever."

Dr. King Feb. 28, 1954
http://www.latimes.com/news/nationworld/nation/la-na-morehouse22- 2008may22,0,1504077.story?page=1
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ditched

[info]paigemarie posting in [info]damnportlanders
5/22/08 11:02 am
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first timer here...

i was bailed on for lunch and now i've got a taste for breakfast. mmmm!

i'm downtown on 6th and taylor. any suggestions for about an hour long lunch break for a table of one?
  • Current Mood: hungry
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Northern Lights over Yellow Knife Canada

[info]tempestalupina
5/22/08 10:54 am
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These defy words...let me just say I used to see the Northern Lights back home but nothing like this...and it was about 40 below when these were taken...OMFG!

If you aver get a chance to go see these I say it's worth it the feeling when you see these outside is...like sighting a Deity...

Northern Lights at Yellow Knife 6


Northern Lights at Yellow Knife 4


Northern Lights at Yellow Knife 1
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Wow, that's some nerve!

[info]lunadragonfly posting in [info]damnportlanders
5/22/08 10:47 am
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Couple leaves more than a tip for their pregnant waitress.

Man, I wish they hadn't fuzzied out the phone number on that business card...they'd be getting some hilarious prank calls about now. Not that I know anyone who would have the time of her life doing that or anything...

ETA: I wonder if this is the same couple looking for Pearl the ur doin it wrong dog...
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Random pic

[info]misslaura posting in [info]blackfolk
5/22/08 10:34 am
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Genes

[info]osweetmisary posting in [info]lesbian
5/22/08 01:17 pm
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I thought of something kinda funny.

All throughout my childhood, people would tell me how I acted and kinda looked like my aunt Teresa. They would tell me that I had her hair and eyes, ALL of the time. I would do something and they would be like, "Awww, you're so much like her."
So maybe they should have been worried. (Personal humor)

My aunt Teresa is gay.

So I was just kinda like, "Huh, that kinda says something."
Supports the 'gay gene' theory.

So, you guys have any simular situations?
Or any views on the 'gay gene' theory?

I don't know what to think about the reasons why. I have a lot of reasons for myself.

Annoying side note: My aunt was banned from the family, I've seen her twice in my entire life, but I was young enough where I don't remember her. So my dad's side of the family doesn't know that I'm gay. My dad does, but thats it. Thats why i had the little personal humor moment.
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  • Current Music: Tegan and Sara- Floorplan
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Fire Rainbow

[info]tempestalupina
5/22/08 10:18 am
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This is a Fire Rainbow one of the rarest naturally occurring Atmospheric Phenomena.
The Picture was captured this week on the Idaho-Washington Border. It lasted for about an hour...In order for it to happen the clouds have to be Cirrus, at least 20,000 feet in the air, with just the right amount of ice crystals and the sun has to hit the clouds at precisely 58 degrees easy enough...*snix*

Isn't it beautiful?

Fire Rainbow
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I want to eat some biscuits

[info]girlracer posting in [info]damnportlanders
5/22/08 10:07 am
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all right, I get off work at 1pm and I want to go eat some biscuits and sausage gravy at the Cricket

I am ALL ABOUT the cricket, but have been intrigued by Pine State Biscuits

do they have a biscuit and sausage gravy option?

is it as good/HUGE as the plate they give you at the Cricket?

also, unless I'm wrong these seem to be the two busiest places for brunch, do you have a preference? IF SO WHY, I CANNOT FIND ANYTHING ALL THAT GREAT ABOUT CUP & SAUCER EXCEPT FOR ITS CUTENESS

(disclaimer the Waffle Window at Bread & Ink has pretty much replaced brunch for me)

Poll #1192243 sunnyside breakfast
Open to: All, results viewable to: All

pick one

View Answers

Cup & Saucer
1 (6.2%)

Cricket Cafe
4 (25.0%)

other (specify in comments)
4 (25.0%)

haven't been to either
7 (43.8%)



also, are the waffles at jace gace as good as the Waffle Window ones?
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[info]ashez728 posting in [info]suckitupdyke
5/22/08 12:44 pm
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I have been dating my girlfriend for almost three years now.  We have an apartment together and animals and a lot of our lives are together.  This past year we have been fighting like crazy and she is always breaking up with me.   Last night she broke up with me (again) and my heart is breaking and of course I want her back.  She is just we aren't good for eachother and what not.  Should I try and get her back or just let her go and say fuck off.  I can't keep doing this... she is just so angry all of the time.  We have so much together and we have a lot of plans.  I just don't want to be single again.  I don't know what to do.  Leave her go.  Try to win her back.  and if I go about trying to get her back what should I do? I need help...

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Website Recommendation:

[info]natewillsheets posting in [info]damnportlanders
5/22/08 09:45 am
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I love looking at old photos of everyday life. If you do too, I would suggest checking out Shorpy, a blog that updates with about ten pictures every day. You can add it to your RSS reader (what I do) or you can add it to your friends page via [info]shorpy  .

What's great about Shorpy is that all of the photos are available in high-definition, large sizes, so if you click on them, you can see a tremendous amount of detail. Some of the recent ones I've liked are here, here, here and here.
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